The term “Midlife Crisis” was coined by a 48-year-old man. A Midlife Crisis refers to the tendency of people in early middle age to undergo an emotional exploration of self-identity.
One of the most frustrating consequences of Midlife Crisis is that if you dare to take on a new habit in your 40s, people will assume you’re having an identity crisis. But in your 20s, you could have taken on a new habit every year, and people would just think you’re crazy. And that’s normal for people that age
In my personal view, there is some merit to this Midlife Crisis discussion. People begin to reflect on their accomplishments. They begin to think about where they’ve been and where they’re going. This is an important development stage.
For those who have been building their careers for the last 20 to 30 years, there may be the sudden realization that retirement is nearing, and that if they’re ever going to pursue their true passion, they’d better get cracking. The feeling of “running out of time” may motivate some people to make drastic changes to their career and life.
You will know what I am talking about, if you have read my previous article: Adventure called sabbatical…
Your Mental Age
There is a tendency in society to ridicule individuals over a certain age for “not acting their age.” But several studies have shown that people have a mental age that can be decoupled from their physical age.
In one famous Harvard experiment, individuals over 70 were asked to live in a “time capsule” house that contained memorabilia from the previous 20 years. These individuals became mentally sharper, and exhibited greater joint flexibility. The individuals in the control group exhibited no change.
The point is this: you’re only as old you think you are. The more you “act your age,” the older you’ll become mentally.
The Past is the Past
It’s normal to fantasize about what you could have accomplished if you knew then what you know now. Hindsight allows you to see how easy everything could have been if you had avoided this or that. But if you live in the past, you’ll miss out on the blessings that surround you now.
Besides, do you really envy the young? The young aren’t as carefree as you might think. Do you remember being that way when you were young? Nor do they have access to limitless opportunities, maturity or freedoms.
It’s easy to idealize youth, but individuals in all stages of life have challenges. At least you have the benefit of experience.
Go Easy on Yourself
From the moment you were born, society has presented you with expectations. Most notably, you’re expected to have achieved success by a certain age. But success is relative.
If you were born poor, you would surely be considered successful if you retired a millionaire. If you were born wealthy, on the other hand, the same might be considered a mediocre result.
If you let society’s expectations control your life, you might feel obligated to believe certain things about yourself. But you can’t afford to give up your power. Only you can decide if what you have accomplished is enough.
If, after critically analyzing your own accomplishments, you decide you want more, then go after it. But avoid letting anyone else make that decision for you.
I had written an article about this subject a few months back. If you haven’t read, here’s the link: Living inside out!
It’s All Relative
If you spend some time around a nursing home, you may have the great fortune of hearing someone in their 90s say something like, “I’d give anything to be 70 again!”
Everyone is living longer, and there are 60-somethings that are rediscovering their life passions after retirement. Some of those individuals are even going on to enjoy successful new careers.
One closing thought: the man who coined the term “Midlife Crisis” was Elliott Jaques. As mentioned, he was 48 at the time. Between the age of 48 and 86 he published 12 books. Oftentimes, people do their most original work after the age of 40.