“About 8 years ago I was a different person. I was energetic and confident. I don’t know what happened but nowadays I feel miserable.” Alok (name changed) was speaking with me during our coaching conversation. He is a mid-level manager working in a global company.
He continued, “It’s important for me to grow in my career but I feel stagnated. I get started with job search & applications with enthusiasm but after a few days, I just give up. Also, I am afraid of appearing for interviews.” He paused and looked at me.
I asked, “What has changed for you in 8 years?”
“Now I am afraid of failing. I applied for a couple of internal job positions, but I was rejected. My application for migrating to another country did not go through. So, I am always worried that people look at me as a failure.”
I asked him, “Who is saying that you are a failure?”
Alok seemed surprised with the question; after a moment he responded, “Nobody is saying that except me. Oh, I have been saying this to myself for a few years now.”
“And what about that Alok 8 years back?”
“Ah, he never worried about failure. He was confident of achieving anything. Hmmm…I am realizing something…”
He looked engrossed in his thoughts for a few moments and then he had a big laugh.