How to make complex things simpler?
“Coach, you make complex things simpler”, Vishal said. He continued, “Every time I come up with a few complex issues regarding my life & career, after speaking with you I feel relaxed and leave with possible solutions.”
I responded, “Got it. Vishal, do you know why our issues seem complex to us?”
He said, “Not sure, can you tell me why?”
I continued, “Sure, because we are so close to our issues. We are emotionally attached to them, we experience fear, anxiety. Maybe that makes our issues more complex than they really are. What do you see?”
Vishal thought for a few moments and then said, “Yes, I can see that. That happens to me all the time.”
I added, “Imagine, you are standing in front of a mirror, very close to it with your nose touching the glass, how clearly can you see?”
He responded, “Obviously if I am too close to the mirror I cannot see clearly, it’s all blurry. To see clearly I need to step back a little bit.”
I said, “Exactly, that’s what happens to all of us. I am no different. A coaching conversation helps you step back a little bit, see clearly, gain perspective, and then it becomes easier to find your own solution. Isn’t it?”
We both smiled.
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